Today was a spectacular day!!! There was an unbelievable amount of cleaning done is a very short very quite time!! There was a young woman at church who told the Young Woman President that she was looking for volunteer work as a mothers helper... so the president told me.
I am usually not one who asks for help and i always feel awkward when i being helped or being the cause of someone elses inconvenience. But i thought about how long it would take me to deep clean the house, with youngest baby being as clingy as he is, and then i thought about how badly i wanted to not have any obligations (like cleaning) this weekend. Plus, volunteering looks really good on college applications, so its like i am helping her... right?
This morning i was woken abruptly by the roofing guys, and got off to a late start on home schooling, because i was dealing with moving cars around and other stuff, and i totally pissed the night away last night by facebooking instead of lesson planning, so once again falling behind schedule. then lunch time came around i still hadnt gotten dressed, and school was just coming to a stopping point. And my "mother helper" was about to arrive.
I ran to the back to get dressed (for house work) and then she was here. She took the kids upstairs, as i cleaned up school work, and cooked lunch (Asian veggie pancakes) and made a smoothie for the toothless one. I then cleaned the kitchen from top to bottom, and then fed the hungry baby some "momma milk" and then that was the last i heard from them until the entire house was cleaned and sanitized!!!!
Let me tell you it was amazing!!! I could hear the kids get in a spat every so often. **** Usually this would escalate until someone starts hitting, and then i would have to stop what ever i was cleaning and knee/elbow deep in, wash my hands go upstairs and punish or talk to or bargain with the older ones, and then the baby would have remembered that he "needs" me so i would then take another hour playing and feeding and settling him down, then finally get back to cleaning and it e another 15 minutes till it starts all over again.**** but then i would hear it be resolved one way or another and I didn't have to go through all the time consuming but necessary steps to make EVERYONE happy again!!!
The baby did not have to follow me around screaming every time i would step over him...in fact he took a nap in the Young Woman's arms!! When it comes time to deep clean my house, I am on edge! For two main reasons, firstly the house has gotten to the point where superficial cleans don't cut it, and i am irritated with how it looks/smells. Secondly, i know that in order to get it CLEAN, the baby must be neglected (not neglected in the call child services way, but in the "mommy cant be constantly playing and tending to the baby" kind of way) and i know this means crawling around screaming his face off pulling my clothes and throwing fits!!!
So my drab slow morning turned into a power clean session in which no one was neglected and everyone was happy, and even the walls were scrubbed!!! then it came time for my helper to go... or at least for us to go... run errands. Well she said she had nothing to do so she can help me with errands!!! YAYYYYYYY
We had to go to the library, and then there were some friends there... typically these friends would have made my kids super hyper and all would have been lost... nope! Then we needed to go grocery shopping.... usually a panic attack waiting to happen....NOPE!! She carried the squirmy disagreeable one and kept the conversationalist busy so that i could, think and have my hands free... 45 minutes!!!! grant it, it was only 4 meals worth of groceries, but still it was such a nice trip.
Now i just wish that i could afford to have a mothers helper when help was needed, like maybe twice a week... for shopping and cleaning. For those things that were so easy before you had kids, but now seem like a daunting task, a nightmare that you need super powers to conquer.
Us mothers can do it. We accomplish whatever is needed of us, regardless of the toll it takes on our emotions and the beating it gives our bodies. It WILL get taken care of... but its so nice to have a little help sometimes... one more set of arms, to tie a shoe, pick up the dropped keys, fasten the seat belts... a set of arms that can go home and get a full nights sleep and not be any worse for the wear!!
::breaths in deeply::
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